The Attraction of
Winning & an Underlying Paradox
Everyone wants to win. We’re all naturally attracted to winners and winning teams.
We see it in sports, every year. Fans are a bit louder, wear the team colors a little more
often, and we watch our teams more frequently…when they’re winning. That’s
when it’s easy to be a fan.
By the same token, when it’s our idea, or when our point of
view sways a decision, or when we get our way at work…we feel like we win.
We feel good...because winning is attractive.
Everyone wants to win.
However, winning
usually doesn’t ‘just happen’.
Quite the opposite is true.
It takes hard work - planning, studying, practicing, sacrificing, and
executing. So many finite details
must come together. Individual performances
have to be great, but they can’t overshadow or prevent the team from its collective winning
effort.
Consider the hard work, sacrifice, and commitment it takes
to win…not that attractive, nor is it easy to do these things consistently. It’s hard.
Everyone wants to win, but not everyone has or does what it
takes to win.
But we all have a story.
Every person on the planet not only has a story of where
they’ve been, but also a story of ‘where
they’re going’. The more we
learn about him or her, the more we learn about their stories – what inspires them, what motivates them, how
they approach their daily routines, how they attack their goals…and why they do
what they do…we get to know their true
character.
A Quick Olympics Thread…
I’ve been obsessed
with the Olympics since 1988, when the Summer Games in Seoul mesmerized me. I had just turned nine years old, and
at the time I played Soccer, Little League Baseball, and Basketball. Though I was like most nine year old
boys, an aspiring big-league athlete,
the ‘competitive athletics’ component of the Olympics wasn’t what drew me
in.
Instead it was the stories of the athletes – how they grew up, where they trained, what
inspired them, and how they had to
overcome adversity – the true character of the athletes inspired me…and I
couldn’t get enough. Every four
years, to this day, I’m fascinated with the Olympics, for the same reasons.
I watched as Gracie Gold crushed it on her routine in the
team skating competition this morning.
I know absolutely nothing about ice skating (although in just the first two days of these Winter Games I’ve learned
a new figure skating term, which I love – “…twizzle…”. Very fun.) I just know that she nailed it. Every jump was flawless, and she was so
dialed in. While I was impressed
with her skating, I couldn’t help being inspired by her story.
The commentators told stories of her first time putting on
skates at a birthday party as a child, and they spoke about her rise to the top of her
sport in recent years with her performance at the national championships.
I learned that she’s only 18-years old,
but has moved all over, living in different cities. She made quite the sacrifice, moving all the way to Los
Angeles to train with notable figure skating coach, Frank Carroll. That kind of commitment and hard work
was definitely inspiring.
After she skated, gracefully exited the ice, and awaited her
score, I turned off the TV…and went to church without even finding out if she
won. That’s when I realized that
it didn’t matter if Gracie Gold actually won or lost…I was still inspired by
her story.
So is winning
really the attraction? Or could it
be something else?
We think we’ll be awesome and everyone will love us…we think
we’ll be attractive if we win. However, at the end of the day, winning isn’t nearly as attractive as
our story. As with any story, characters make or break the storyline,
and ultimately how good the story is or isn’t. And for all of us, it’s our very own character that makes or breaks our story. It's also what might even make a positive impact in the lives of those around us, improving their story.
Instead of focusing on who wins, we should focus on who we’re becoming.
People with true character are attractive, regardless of how
many wins they have.
That’s the underlying paradox.
Have a great day, and if this post makes it to Sochi, thanks to all of our Olympians representing the United States. You certainly make our story better...
